Whips and Paddles

What are spanking toys and how are they used?

As the name implies, spanking toys are used mostly for sex to spank your partner. Depending on the type of toy used, the feeling might range from a gentle slap to a stinging strike. They can be used to add more sensations, to punish your sub or to gently tease. If used for punishment, a very popular way is to agree on a number and make your partner count each strike. Pairing them up with masks or nipple clamps helps to add to the experience and heighten sensations.

Types of spanking toys

There are many different types of impact toys on sale. Each one feels different, so choosing one that matches your intentions and fantasies is important.

• Paddles - These are the most common ones, as they are usually more gentle and easy to use. They have a handle and a solid impact area, usually made with leather or silicone. Smooth spanking paddles feel softer, while the ones with studs give extra stimulation.
• Floggers - Bdsm Floggers are similar to paddles, as they are quite gentle and can also be used for sensory play. Floggers are made up of a handle and tails that give a more “thuddy” feel when used. Some people prefer this type of toy for the teasing aspect, as dragging the tails gently across the body can give a ticklish sensation.
• Canes - Canes are quite an advanced option for impact play, as the thin wooden stick gives a very strong stinging sensation when used. When using canes, it’s important to start gently and slow. Pinwheels are another great toy that offer a stinging feeling.
•  Whips - Some whips are similar to floggers, with multiple soft tails. But more commonly, a whip has a single tail that produces a localized strong impact when used. It’s like a combination between a flogger and a cane, being somewhere between the two. With whips, it’s important that the whip tail doesn’t wrap around the body and accidentally hit sensitive areas, like the ribs or stomach. So practice a bit before using it to get the hang of it.
• Crops - Crops are a softer version of the cane. Offering a precise sting, they’re less painful than canes thanks to their flexible bodies. They’re easy to control and use, and come in many fun designs.

How to choose a toy for spanking

Choosing the right toy comes down to personal preference - each toy feels different. For softer, broader sensations floggers and paddles are the way to go. For targeted, stinging sensations canes, crops and whips are preferred.

Safety and care of spanking toys

For leather toys, using a damp cloth after use to wipe down the toy is usually enough. If you’re not breaking any skin or coming in contact with bodily fluids, there’s not too much to worry about. But there are also specialised leather cleaners out there if you ever need to wash it completely. If you’re unsure, just head to a horse shop and ask what they recommend to clean a riding crop - leather is leather after all!

Basics of safe use

As mentioned before, having a safeword in place should always be the first step. Choose a word you wouldn’t usually say during sex (like pineapple), and if either of you uses that word, any play stops immediately. Using the stoplight system is also popular, where green means all good, yellow means slow down and red means everything stops. Using a tiered system makes it easy to check in during play.

It’s also important to make yourself aware of safe zones, which are the safest areas to do impact play on. For beginners, it’s safest to start out with these areas, as the risk is low and they hurt a bit less. These zones include the ass, glutes, upper thighs, and forearms. Other low risk zones are the chest, shoulders, upper arms, and the calf & shin area.

If you’re only getting started with spanking for pleasure, going slow is the key. Start with gentle slaps using only your hand to see if it’s for you. From there, it’s all about how you’re feeling - whether you want to test more, not do it at all, or if you’d like to look into spanking toys to take things to the next level.

Buy spanking toys at Lust and Love

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